A teenager was telling her mom that all her friends were allowed to text whenever they wanted insisting that she had to live in the the house with all the ridiculous rules.
My head was spinning as I heard this story. There is texting and instant messaging and there is facebook and my space and dozens of other places teens can go to connect with their peers.
This mom got very creative…something we all lose sight of when in the day to day trenches of parenting. She told her daughter to come up with what she thought would be a reasonable amount of time to spend using her cell phone (texting or talking), adding that she would be open minded about the subject.
Days later I heard that the storm in the house had blown over and all was resolved.
Kids will be more apt to follow rules when they have some involvement in its creation.
Saying no and setting rules are good for parents and even better for kids.